Anal Sex Guide for Beginners
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Most people at some time in their sexual journey through life at least think about anal sex and anal pleasuring. It is true that not everyone acts on these thoughts and desires and that is OK. However, for those of you who take the leap into the world of anal pleasuring there are some things you need to know in order to be safe, pleasurable and comfortable.
What is it?
There are a lot of anal sex aficionados out there who never quite get the concept that there is a difference between anal pleasuring and anal sex. Now of course, anal sex can be pleasurable and for some people it is the only anal game in town. However, anal sex is not the only way to enjoy getting it on down under. Truth be told there is a lot to be said for expanding that game to include all the sports in the Olympics.
Anal sex is pretty self explanatory but for those who want to read it in black and white let me spell it out for you. Anal sex or anal intercourse is where one partner inserts their penis into the anus of the other partner. This can be between two men or a man and a woman.
Anal pleasuring on the other hand includes all forms of sexual stimulation to the anus. This includes but is not limited to using a tongue, finger, sex toy or penis to provide said sexual stimulation. Anal pleasuring is something two men, two women or a man and a woman can do. It is even something that can be done and is done when someone is flying solo.
Some people believe the myth that anal sex is just for gay men and if you are a man and do it, want to do it or find pleasure in receiving anal stimulation that makes you gay too. Nothing could be further from the truth.
People of all genders, sexual orientations and sexual identities engage in anal pleasuring. They may not admit it but they are out there. Perhaps they are doing it right now while you are reading this guide. As long as it is a consensual thing, do your thing.
Why Anal Sex?
Why do people play around with the ass as a part of sex? Well, quite simply, because it feels good. Let’s take this opportunity for a simple anatomy lesson:
The anus is full or nerve endings. Enough said.
There are more nerves in the anus than in the vagina. And it feels good when they are stroked and otherwise stimulated. The anus is also tighter than the vagina and many men find the tightness incredibly erotic and pleasurable.
If we take a look farther up in males we reach the prostate. Often referred to as the male G-Spot, the prostate is a gland that helps produce semen. Stimulating it during sex will also make a guy orgasm really intensely and ejaculate what feels like an ocean of fluid. Using a finger, a sex toy or a penis can really feel amazing.
Giving equal time to the women out there, the internal part of the clitoris is actually reachable through the anus. No joke. The clitoris is so much more than that tiny bulb on the outside of the body. But that is another guide. What you need to know about about the clit in reference to anal sex is that when something is inserted into a woman’s anus, part of the internal clitoris is stimulated and some women actually orgasm from anal sex and pleasuring. Remember that nerves are connected to other nerves so what sends a bolt of electricity through your body may very well be connected to other nerves that do the same.
Some people feel like anything that mixes the anus with sexual pleasure is off limits. The ultimate taboo so when they have a partner that is willing to go there actually making the trip can be really hot. They feel like they are going after forbidden fruit and there is something so incredibly arousing about that idea it makes them really want to try it.
Anal Safety Rules
It may seem ridiculous to think this is necessary to say this but there are a lot of people who need to see it in writing.
A vagina is warm and wet and expands to accommodate a penis or a sex toy. An anus is none of those things -well maybe warm- and does not come ready made for insertion.
Another necessary warning is: Please be careful what you insert in your anus and your partner’s anus. Emergency room doctors pulling objects out of people’s asses is not folklore. It really happens.
There is a plethora of sex toys made specifically for anal pleasure. We will talk about them later in this guide. For now, please do not put anything in any anus that was not designed for an anus. That means nothing without a flared end, nothing sharp, nothing alive, nothing made of flimsy glass, no flashlights, light bulbs, carrots or cucumbers. Please people: THINK. The anus is not like the vagina where there is a specific endpoint. It is not unusual for objects without a flared end to get lost up there and that means a trip to the ER if you are lucky. Surgery if you are not.
Lube is a MUST for any kind of anal play. The anus does not produce lube like the vagina does. It needs help to get ready for sex and sex play. There are some great lubes made just for anal sex play and there are other all purpose lubes as well. Use it. A lot of it. On the person’s anus and whatever you are going to put inside them. Don’t be afraid to add more lube as things go along.
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